Goals are great. We all need goals in life in order to be productive. However, it’s necessary to look deeply into the nature of our goals if we are to avoid self-sabotage.
What is your goal? Why do you want it? How do you imagine you will feel after accomplishing your goal? When you think about this, try to be brutally honest with yourself.
It may be hard to admit, but many of us have set certain goals because on a subconscious level we believe that only when we achieve our goal will we be “good enough. “ Only when we become the ideal version of ourself will we be worthy of love. Only when we accomplish x,y,z can we be happy.
Is this you?
If this is your subconscious motivation, you are likely doomed to fail in one way or another.
Why? Because it’s a fear-based motivation. And fear-based motivations lead to anxiety and stress. Anxiety and stress lead to not doing the things you need to do to accomplish your goals, or doing them in a way that leads to MORE anxiety and stress.
The good news is— you are ALREADY good enough. You are ALREADY worthy of love. And you can be happy now. If there is some block to acknowledging and accepting this fact with the entirety of your being, THAT’S what you need to work on before you can really accomplish anything of value.
The best way to be productive is to set your goals from a place of love instead of a place of fear. Then you can proceed in lightness and joy, free from self-sabotage, stress and anxiety. Because all that starts with love…